#19 Sick – ‘The Right Way’

I am sick – but you have been sick for 15 years! I hear you say. You are right, I have been mentally ill for 15 years but today I am sick. Normal sick, the acceptable kind. The one society cares about. So that means I get sympathy and understanding all day.

See when people tell other people they are mentally ill, it is usually greeted with a backward step. This is whilst also scrambling for emergency speed dial on their smartphone. When you tell people you have the flu, they get closer, they cook you meals, wash up for you, do your ironingΒ and buy you two donuts*.

So why didn’t this reaction transfer over to mental health, at which point do the sympathies run out for mental health? And most importantly where are the donuts? I mean, maths was never my strong point but I seem to be down approximately 10,950 donuts*.

There are not many perks to being sick but that is definitely one, not to mention my first day off work in 4 weeks. But there are no perks to being sick mentally. When you’re sick mentally you not only have to deal with that pain, do your washing up, cook, eat, clean and work, but then you have to deal with the rejection from the people around you. They think you need space, or time, or to just ‘pull yourself together’. They never think donuts. I want donuts.

So nothing has happened today, just like yesterday. My mind is clear, it is avoiding me, it clearly doesn’t want to deal with me when I am sick, but I am used to that reaction.


*Which my marvellous girlfriend did today.

*15 years of mental health issues x 365 days a year illness x 2 donuts to cheer me up.

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  1. Joonas Kopponen

    Damn I want my donuts now too! Are they the kind I could sell? I might die from the donuts if I ate them all..

    I really hope someday, maybe even during my life time people with mental health issues are treated with more respect and kindness. Not the fear, prejudice and all that lovely stuff. I am now starting to recover from my flu.. Guess I commented too many times on your posts that you are sick now.

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    1. Mindfump

      The donuts my girlfriend gave me were delicious! I hope you get your hands on some! I think or I hope people with mental illnesses are treated better also. Fingers crossed. Sickness or no sickness you are always welcome to comment on my blog! Thanks for stopping by so much.

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  2. summerSHINES

    This post is really good. You make some good points…I have long term mental health problems too and I’m sure people have lost patience with me very quickly relative to if I had a physical illness. Also my PTSD and BPD are rooted in neurological disturbance anyway, so my brain is sick…but people just think im not trying hard enough to be positive lol! Society. Grrr!

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    1. Mindfump

      Society is very (very) frustrating! Especially when you suffer from a mental illness, if you have to fight your illness, fight to be believed and then fight to get any medical treatment. What can we do about it though? We are talking about it more which is a start I guess.

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      1. summerSHINES

        I think bloggers collectively have a fair bit of influence and are certainly doing what we can πŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺBattles do need to be fought sometimes…though some battles are not worth the fight. The difficulty is learning which applies to what particular situation.

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          1. summerSHINES

            πŸ˜€πŸ˜‚ I like your sense of humour. People with mental health disorders DO require doughnuts…that’s a clinically proven fact 😊 Doughnuts and shopping at tkmaxx actually got me through many months of my breakdown, that and McDs toffee lattes πŸ˜‚

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          2. summerSHINES

            Awe! Exercise is helping my mental health…and I still very much enjoy my food 😍 I’m sure you’ll rein yourself in before you get to the big fume stage 😊 I am doing RED January where I’ve ram every day this month to raise money for Mind, which is a UK mental health charity. You could try RED Feb if you felt the urge?! 😊

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          3. Mindfump

            Oh wow that is fabulous! Well done! I’ve heard of Mind. I am actually from the UK but I live out in Vienna. I really really wish I could run but I did a post last week I think (the title is something about out running mental problems) and in that I talk about how I have double stress fractures in my shins. So I am not actually supposed to walk at all for the next 4 months… Although it’s fair to say I have not kept to that advice just yet. Really impressed you are running every day though, I am jealous.

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          4. summerSHINES

            Oh crap…I’m sorry about your leg problems. And being advised not to even walk? Crikey. I would have thought some gentle walks outside in the fresh air would be beneficial though otherwise the muscle wastage will be pretty bad. Oh I’m sorry to hear that. I won’t run it in by going on about my running. Are you ok to swim? Swimming is fabulous as an alternative maybe?

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          5. Mindfump

            It is ok! I got the problem 2 years ago. I used to do triathlons, and it stemmed from that. The fractures are so advanced that if I continue to walk or run on them they will eventually break. So it is no good. I can swim, that is definitely a get out of jail (not-so-free) card. Although swimming is very… tedious. Will you continue running next month?

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          6. summerSHINES

            That is rubbish for you 😣 Well done on having done the triathlons though…that is shamazing! It looks like swimming is the best thing then out of your options. At the pool is go to it has giant pictures of islands in the maldives all over the walls so when I swim I imagine I’m on holiday πŸ˜πŸ˜‚ That breaks the tedium for me, and also the reward of the jacuzzi steam room and sauna afterwards 😊 I will continue running yes, but with more rest days and combining it with other gym stuff. I have a 10k in June so am building up to that πŸ’ͺ


          7. Mindfump

            Love the swimming pool, that should be the case at every swimming pool. Well done to you, I really wish you well for the 10k! You will smash it. You will have to let me know how you get on. I am falling asleep here! I will catch up with your blog properly tomorrow – thank you for the comments it is so nice to have a community on here.

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  3. seekingalightbulb

    18 years I’ve been ‘sick’ and 16 of those have been the loneliest years of my life but this past 2 years now that every one is sharing, it doesn’t seem so lonely anymore, and I feel that more people are trying to understand if not directly experiencing it themselves, so maybe the dream of regular donuts can one day come true!

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