#28 Peace – ‘Are You OK?’

My grandad is a funny man, probably the funniest man I know. He is always positive, and I’ve never seen him say a bad word about anyone. A true role model and he also happens to be quite old. Fast approaching 90 years old – old. He also happens to be very tired.

This is largely due to other peoples expectations – principly that old people die. So every time he doses off on the couch or takes a nap, he is woken up to a mass of hysterical people who think he has just died. ‘Are you ok!? Are you ok!?’

The expectations for mental illness have a similar effect.

You see, what happens is that once you have revealed your illness, the people who know about it, see you in a different light. They don’t see someone gazing at a beautiful landscape*. They don’t see you peering at cliffs, reflecting on a beautiful moment. They don’t see you staring into the vastness of the UK’s Great Lakes in wonderment.


What they see, is a mentally ill person staring into the depths of their soul, about to jump off a cliff, or a mentally ill person plotting the best way to drown themselves in the lake at the first opportunity. Resulting in the familiar – ‘are you ok?’

Today was a beautiful day. We (my ex-girlfriend and I) spent the day in the lakes for her birthday. I love this area of the world. It was a peaceful and happy time. Rare moments of true mental peace in a typically stormy world… ‘But really though, are you ok?’

It is genuine care, which I fully appreciate. But I now understand my grandad – sometimes he just wants to enjoy the moment. No but, really, just tell me, are you ok?


P.S  Still travelling around – normal posts resume on Friday.

*You can see on instagram.


  1. Joonas Kopponen

    Annie are you okay, are you okay Annie? That played in my head the whole time. Then this image: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/47/ae/02/47ae021fa2cbb18f5b0046d3ca420e0b.jpg

    I know this feeling really well.. Sometimes it annoys the crap out of me. I am looking at something beautiful, staring in wonder and joy. “Joonas, are you ok?” ” Yeah, I was a second ago…” It is genuine care and worry indeed but would appreciate a “Isn’t it lovely?”.

    I am really glad you have such a wonderful grandfather! 🙂 My mothers mother I really love, we laugh a lot together and always have gotten along really well. I am going to see her this weekend! *happy dance* I will go and make Instagram account and check the pictures out! My brother will be ecstatic I am making Instagram after all these years. Beware, he might appear to you with hugs and donuts!

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      1. Joonas Kopponen

        In time I hope indeed. 🙂 I nowadays mostly get people being really worried I have energy and am doing stuff again. Scared I am going into total mania mode I think. Understandable. To be honest I noticed I was drifting towards it this past week.. Managed to calm down though! 🙂 I was doing hours of exercise per day on three hours of sleep and just doing other stuff nearly all the time too. Then not being tired at the end of the day. Ahem I should have noticed before it was too much but glad I did before it was too late and I would have took 10 thousand euros loan and travel around the world for a month without sleep or something similiar.

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          1. Joonas Kopponen

            I was just being really happy for a long while but then it was turning into mania with the very little sleep and me tapping my hand and being ‘iwannadostuffiwannadostuffimgnadostuffididstuffimgnadomorestuffdoeverythingrightnowallthetime NNJJJIIIEEEEERRRGGGHH it’s 1am and I have been to the gym for 1.5 hours and had two over hour fast walks and lots of indoors exercises is the perfect time to start anew and do everything!!!’ I sometimes get like that. =P

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          2. Joonas Kopponen

            Thank you Mindfump, you are truly a good sir, always a pleasure to exchange words. Arrived an hour ago at my grandparents, soon going to sleep. Good rest of friday and night to you! 🙂 New post coming tonight or tomorrow, a topic I hope people will find useful. Has helped me a lot at least.

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