#46 Phone – ‘Missed Call from Depression’

It is said that doctors recommend eating 5 fruit and vegetables per day. I have also heard of doctors recommending 7 portions of fruit and vegetables per day, which has since gone up to 10 portions. Whilst a difference of 100% between advice is somewhat suspicious, what strikes me as odd is that no one mentions the fact that doctors don’t actually do nutritional diet research. Food science research is actually carried out rather aptly by food scientists.

Now I am no food scientist, nor am I a doctor, but I do know of one fruit that has helped me significantly today – it was an Apple*.  More specifically an Apple iPhone.

I have been very fortunate to live in numerous countries around the world and I am still living abroad now – here, in Austria. For the geographically challenged that is neither the country with kangaroos nor part of the UK. So that means to contact my family and friends I need to video call them.

When I am depressed though, I have found that I slowly reduce contact with everyone in my support network. Something which is very easily done when you live abroad, because those people can’t exactly knock on your door or bump into you on the street. And given my recent bout of depression, it is fair to say contact within my social web has been minimal. My support network basically broke down and I didn’t realise how significant that was, until today.

Today I video called my parents, the first in around 2 weeks, and it took my mood to another level. We were laughing and joking, as well as talking about serious topics. I felt both lighter and happier after the call. It really had a big impact.

A solid support network is a great base to build a healthy mind, and the stronger the web the healthier I will be – or so I believe. Not speaking to anyone within that social web for a while makes me fear it or at least be mildly annoyed by it. Rather like walking into the garden shed and getting an old cobweb all over your face. So, I am going to commit to not only answer my phone more but also call people more. Although I do not foresee a day when my parents manage to keep their face on screen – at least they have a nice curtain rail though.

Mindfump.

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39 Comments

  1. S. Hansen

    Yeah I try to keep in touch with my family, it really does help. But when your are really down it’s pretty hard to make the call. And when half your family also depressed and the other half is autistic you don’t get many incoming phone calls :/
    But I’m home now and it feels good to be talking with people again 😀

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    1. Mindfump

      Right onboard with you Hansen. That feeling after we spoke was immediate though and I don’t know why it was never so obvious before. We need to go old skool and each get a CB, and we can call each other at night like those kids in the movie Big.

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  2. Jessica

    Social contact is vital to good mental health for everyone, not just those of us with depression. Church groups, book clubs, exercise groups, support groups, friends, family, whoever…We need that face to face contact. Glad you got the boost you needed today. 😊

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  3. Small Island Thinker

    I’m fortunate that my parents live close by and I wholeheartedly agree that a support network is crucial. I have also recently joined a ‘support’ group in my town for people with depression / anxiety and we meet up once a month to drink tea and eat cake (and talk to each other too). On my off days, just knowing someone is on the end of the phone is a huge comfort 🙂

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    1. Mindfump

      That is a lovely thing to have. It must be nice to have them so close, both your parents and the group. I’ve often tried to join different things whether its hobbies or groups but the language is difficult and that makes things hard. Definitely making more use of video calling people is my new goal.

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  4. realillness

    I’m glad you wrote this. I find myself drifting away from people too. When I was admitted to hospital with depression I didn’t contact my family for two weeks. My mum knew something was up, but not what. Now I talk to her everyday when I’m on the bus (or waiting for my bus), even to just tell her mundane things like ‘my bus is late’ or to complain about the German language.

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    1. Mindfump

      I totally know what you mean, it is actually such a coincidence you say that. My mother drifted away from her mother for years and now they talk every day.. about mundane things. I think it can be really cathartic just to have idle chat. And there is plenty of hours in complaining about the german language. Oh man that language kills me.

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  5. Jodie Rogers

    Isn’t it funny how people are always saying that technology is bad for you and that the younger generation are always on it. What they don’t know is how it can help someone so much, like yourself. My phone is sometimes a nice escape as long as you don’t get sucked into the virtual world! 🤣

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  6. mknaturedesign

    I tend to close myself off and my girls say that I am in a space of my own. You are right! We do have to speak up and let it be known where we’re at. Especially to our loved ones I think but that is so hard. I’m glad you had the chance to talk to your family.

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    1. Mindfump

      It is definitely hard, even though today was just a general chat it really lifted me. I have never actually told my parents about my mental struggles. Although I am sure they have some idea. I think more interaction with people we care about and who care about us has got to be a good thing!

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      1. mknaturedesign

        I think that it’s a good thing. The best is a family member who knows everything about your mental illness. I don’t trust even my family to tell them everything. I don’t want them to know how sick I really am.

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  7. Rebecca

    Oh family…. I too live far away from family. Most of the time I am glad for this. We actually only speak maybe once every few months. The next part is very silly: I tend to wait and see if they will call me, to see if they miss me or not. Usually it seems to be not! Which doesn’t help the depression, I must say. Me and my silly games.

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