280 // When Should You Quit Your Depressing Job?

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Timing is everything in this world, just ask Rolex. Timing is not an easy thing to prepare for because sometimes it can be as random as getting punched in the face and then giving your friend a lift to an audition and then accidentally getting the leading role in a film called Mad Max, as happened to Mel Gibson. I think that is called ‘right place, right time‘. The casting director spotted Mel Gibson because of the cuts and bruises he received from being punched. Mel Gibson then quit his job as ‘man who gets punched in the face’ to become an international film star, only to quit that job to finally realise his dream of becoming a bigotted anti-semite.

Then you have people like Neil Robertson, another Australian who famously quit his job and moved to the UK with £100 to follow his dream to be a Snooker star. He went on to win the World Championship in 2010, and that is a wonderful story. But I can’t help think we aren’t hearing about the 10,000 people who also quit their job to follow a dream and then ended up homeless but with fabulous jazz hands.

The fact is luck plays a huge part in the success people have and if you happen to speak to any ‘successful’ people they will whine on for 30 minutes about how hard they worked to be where they are before dropping in an unbelievable case of good fortune that got them their break. That is not to say they aren’t talented or didn’t work hard, but the reality is there are far more hard-working talented people in this world than there are ‘successful’ people.

Of course, you could be like Mel Gibson and ‘success’ will come knocking at your door or you can work unbelievably hard your whole life and never have any success at all like David Ellamore*. Or you could tentatively try to reach your goal and end up timidly belly flopping like a kid learning to dive for the first time. The bravest people certainly seem to find success more readily than the timid amongst us.

Having said that though, as strange as it may seem, I don’t want to be in the ‘worked hard, took a chance and ended up homeless’ category, so when is it the right time to quit and follow your dream?

I don’t think I’ve hidden the fact that I dislike my current job immensely, and barring writing it on my forehead I don’t think I could have conveyed that to my employers any better either. The act of doing the job is not the difficult part though, the tasks are relatively easy and the pace is not too demanding.

The issue I have mentally though is two-fold.

The first issue is dealing with the mental struggle associated with modern (and historical) society’s desire to define people by their work. You’re a doctor, a musician, a footballer, an actor, except you’re probably none of those things. You’re probably an office worker, a salesman, a cook, a receptionist, a shop assistant or a cleaner. That is not to put anyone down or to talk poorly of these jobs, but defining a whole person based upon those jobs I think can be mentally crushing. Especially when people refer to you as ‘only a… ‘. Even more so when my ambitions and skills lie elsewhere, but despite these skills and ambitions, I am without a doubt a call centre worker – only a call centre worker.

The second issue is spending time with lost and resigned souls who had similar ambitions but gave them up for whatever reason. That makes conversations about ambitions difficult. You can’t say you want to write a book about X or write a song about Y because David has already tried and failed, with the presumption now being you don’t need to bother either.

So where does that leave a person mentally? Well, the short answer is; not in a great place.

At some point, I need to leave, and I will, but I know if I leave completely I will be leaving the job into a place of more struggle. On the odd occasion I can raise my head above the dense fog of negativity at work I don’t see a horizon filled with better things, not immediately anyway, I see more difficult times ahead. Times when I will struggle to pay bills or have to reassure everyone around me that earning money from a ‘normal’ job is depressingly unfulfilling.

Naturally, I’m trying to find a happy medium at the moment where I can explore creative industry as well as earn money from a crushingly depressing job. That is why I only work part-time and that is why for the time being I don’t need to quit. Maybe I just need to get beat up and hang around the head offices of some publishers or be Australian.

Paul Green

*You won’t get this reference because firstly he isn’t successful but secondly he doesn’t exist.

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30 Comments

  1. unitymuse

    What’s successful? I think breathing is pretty successful – that makes everything else a bonus 🙂

    There is no work-life “balance” … it’s all life. We have two choices – every role has a purpose and people who benefit, so we can shift our perspective to focus on who we’re doing the mind-numbing job for (the customers who benefit, our employers, our families, our own means to an end).

    Or we make the break and use a little bit of desperation as motivation to drive ourselves on – hard work is a helluva lot more of a sure thing than a little bit of luck.

    And if it doesn’t work out, it’s just not meant to be – there’ll always be another mind-numbing job to get us by until our next whim strikes. Mind-numbing jobs make the world go round, so we’re always contributing to something!

    But, dreams are better, so if you can go after yours – why wouldn’t you? You’re closer right now than you’ve ever been and tomorrow, you’ll be closer still 🙂

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  2. Mái

    I’m in the same boat here… I’ve been trying to make a move for quite some time now, but it hasn’t been possible. I would love to quit and just dedicate my time to write silly blog posts and make youtube videos.. but a girl needs to eat.. and pay rent.. and pay the gym.. and have a regular income. One day tho… one day we will have the determination to do it!

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  3. Harpreet Singh Makkar

    Being self employed is amazing thing. Prepare ur self one day u going to be writer. . But I love my profession of chartered accountants & I m want be a writer also. I write blog, but I didn’t give much time. I will give more time .

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  4. therined

    You’re speakin’ my language here! But don’t let your fear of the future hold you back. There are endless ways to pay the bills. And the greatest thing about writing is that you can do from anywhere in the world no matter what kind of job you hold. Best of luck to you!

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  5. helentastic67

    Lol. Much hate for poor MEL…….(but correct) I loved a job I was being bullied at. I didn’t quit. I stuck it out until they restructured me out of my job. I was escorted off the Press isles with a box of pilfered stationary under my arm and a colleague holding my hand. (That part was sweet) and then the 2 people who had made complaints about me were also restructured out of their jobs! Sometimes, you just gotta make a stand. Cheers,H

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  6. Kira

    The being defined by your job thing can be really crushing when you’re employed because in some peoples’ minds that makes you ‘nothing.’ We shouldn’t only be defined by the things we do on weekdays from 9-5 and get paid a steady salary for though. You’re also a writer/blogger.

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  7. Anonymous

    I’d say quit the job you don’t like and go for it wathever happens. The Danish author Aksel Sandemose said you can’t be an author if you’ve never starved. I don’t think that’s true, but you’ll get more to write about for sure, and slavery sucks anyway 😉

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  8. mydangblog

    I don’t mind my job but I was planning on leaving in a year and a half to pursue writing full-time. Then my company offered me a three year promotion and I have a son who wants to go to grad school. So I gotta do what I gotta do, and I totally get what you mean.

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